Small town dating can be rough. There’s no question about that. But what if I told you that it’s possible to turn your dating woes into dating successes (even if it seems you have run out of matches)? Yes it’s true that you may not have it as easy as the singles who live in big cities… in some ways. But big city daters have their own special struggles to deal with. So you might as well embrace this problem and figure out how to move past it. Let’s break this down and talk about how to date in a small town.
1. Slow Down
While it may be okay to whiz through your Tinder matches if you are living in a place like New York City, small town dating is different. Make sure to give each potential suitor a fair chance when browsing matches online. If you go too fast, you may be out of options by noon.
2. Make use of Facebook
Facebook Groups are becoming more and more popular, offering groups for everything you can imagine. Find a nearby group and join it. Once in, don’t be afraid to message a couple of the group members to say hi. Just try not to be creepy. Put together a very friendly message explaining that you are new to the group, and ask a question about it. Who knows what will happen from there.
You might be thinking that this isn’t exactly a tip on how to date in a small town, but it is. Travel opens you up for new perspectives and ideas. It might seduce you and cause you to fall in love with a new city. It might steer you into an international relationship. It might make you more desirable as a person. Or, it might just give you closure on your situation back home. Whatever the outcome, it’s always a fruitful choice.
4. Play Games
Even if you once told yourself that you would never play something like Pokemon Go, games like these can provide a really fun opportunity for meeting others. Geocaching is also a good one, as there are often times meetup events in the smallest of towns.
5. Level up
Speaking of games, you also should be trying to level up a bit… in real life. Since you are in a small town, the competition is going to be fierce, so it’s important to be on top of your game. Don’t you want to be that one person in the town that everyone wishes they could date? The one person that gets snatched up the second they are single? Well you can be. Turn that person into you.
6. Talk to Strangers
This may not be the most comfortable thing to do, but get into the habit of starting genuine conversations with the people around you. To warm up, ask the bank teller about how her kids are doing. Or, chat with the mailman about the weather. It doesn’t necessarily have to be “flirting”. A simple conversation can open up more doors than you can imagine. Who knows? Maybe the mailman’s son or daughter is single.
7. Go to Class
If you are a student, go to class. Get involved. This is a surefire way to meet people. And if you aren’t a student, consider signing up for some adult education classes. Learn to sew. Learn a language. Or, consider enrolling in a graduate program!
8. Play Sports
Joining some kind of league, team, or organization comes with major social benefits. Whether you choose to sign up for the gym, tennis, or even just a bowling league, you’ll be exposing yourself to way more people than if you were to stay home and keep bumming out about not knowing how to date in a small town.
Well, not in the business sense, but do get talking! Slip your situation into conversations with your dearest friends and family members. Meeting potential partners through your circle is a great place to start. It just takes five words – “Know anyone who is single?”.
Yep, even small towns have parties. Between the wine, darkness, and the seduction of the music, you just might find yourself starting to wonder why you’ve never considered that neighbor you grew up with as a potential sexual partner.
Now some of these ideas might seem simple, and it’s because they are. All it takes is a slower pace, some investment in yourself, and most importantly, getting out of your house and comfort zone. If you do these things, you’ll be maneuvering the small town dating scene with ease, while your single friends continue to bum out over pints of ice cream.
Have you ever had to date in a small town?
We’d love to hear all about it in the comments below. And if you’d like to share how you met your partner in a small town, I’m sure others would love to hear about that too!
Until next time,