After posting a winning profile, messaging a handful of people, going through that repetitive, yet mandatory conversation with your potential bae, and finally lining up your first date, you may be breathing a sigh of relief. But the reality is that the hard part is just getting started! Luckily, you can just whiz through this first date checklist and create a winning first impression.
So, cool. You have an upcoming date. But you now also have a lifetime of other challenges ahead of you. You are going to have to find a way to woo your date, knock them out with your manners and social skills, convince them that you are girlfriend/boyfriend material, wow them in bed, and in the *best case scenario* spend the rest of your days finding that delicate balance between making yourself and your partner happy simultaneously.
But for today, let’s just start with the preparation for your first meeting. 🙂
Here is what you should do before showing up:
1. Re-read their profile
Re-reading the online dating profile is enough to provide amazing insight into the person you are meeting. And insight means… conversation starters! Make some mental notes as to what was mentioned in the profile, and bring these things up during the date. However, try to avoid saying something like, “So, you wrote in your profile that you love dogs…”. This is just awkward. Don’t mention online dating during an actual date. Instead, make a conversation out of it, like, “So, would you consider yourself to be a dog person or a cat person?”.
2. Re-read your messages
Sometimes it’s good to give yourself a quick refresher on the things you have already talked about via text. By doing this, you can easily prevent boredom and repetitiveness during the date.
3. Do something active that day.
This doesn’t have to be anything huge, but make sure not to spend the whole day sitting at your desk before showing up to the date. Find some time during the day to lift some weights, do some yoga, or even go on a nice walk through a park. This will prevent you from being (or appearing to be) groggy later on.
4. Take a shower
This is probably the most important item on the list. Make sure you are as fresh as it gets before walking out that door! Do NOT do a workout, change your clothes, and think you are fresh enough for a date. Hop in the shower first! Did you have a strenuous day at work? Shower!
5. Double check everything
Double check your meeting time, location, and how long it will actually take you to get to your meeting point. Tardiness could potentially lead to your date feeling awkward and alone. And if they are even awkward and alone for a few minutes, it could be enough to mess up their first impression of you.
6. Read the news
Take 10-15 minutes that day to catch up on some current events. Make sure to read the big stories, but also a couple of random and interesting smaller stories. This will be enough material to enable you to break free from any awkward silence that may occur later on.
7. Charge your phone
Make sure your phone is charged before heading out. This will allow you to be able to communicate with your date before and after meeting. And while we’re on the topic, put your phone away (and keep it away) as soon as the date begins.
8. Have a snack
Do not show up to the date starving! This will break up your mental energy and flow. Eat something small beforehand, even if you are meeting for dinner.
9. Do some research
Pull up your bar or restaurant’s menu online beforehand. Figure out your top 1-2 choices of what you plan on ordering. That way, you can just appear to be looking at the menu while your date is figuring out what to order. This will give your nerves a bit of a break. Then, as you see that your date is about ready to order, you can slowly put down your menu as well.
10. Take out cash
There is nothing more embarrassing than being financially ill-prepared on a date. Take out cash so that you don’t have to “borrow” money from your date, or run to the nearest ATM in the case the bar doesn’t accept credit cards.
So, I know this may seem like a lot, but if you just make a habit of working your way through this list every time you have a date, I can guarantee that you will significantly increase your chance of having a great time. You may even start to find your first dates to be something you’re looking forward to, rather than something you’re dreading. And if your first date turns out to be a dud, there’s always this handy checklist to make the best of that situation as well. 😉