7 Arguments to the Idea That Online Dating Sucks

Stacy KarynDating Apps/Sites, General Dating Advice, Tinder12 Comments

Over it?

25 Reasons You Should Quit Online Dating,” “6 Reasons Why Looking for a Relationship Online is a Bad Idea“, and “13 Reasons Why Online Dating is the Worst” are all examples of blog posts focused on spreading the idea that online dating sucks. Many people have claimed that online dating is ruining romance and our generation’s ideals in general.   

Well I’d have to disagree with the naysayers who claim that online dating sucks. And here’s why.
1. Online Dating is Easy

You heard me. Easy. Gone are the days in which you have to drag yourself to a bar attempting to talk to one person after another, and ending the night with nothing but clothes that stink of beer and cigarettes.

And you’re right. If done incorrectly, online dating can be incredibly discouraging. However, if you do it the right way, it will be way easier than going out and looking for your person out in the wild.

2. Prescreening

Just like TSA, we are now able to save ourselves precious time with a prescreening process. Think back to a time before online dating. You probably went to a bar, chatted up a sexy someone over a martini, had one martini too many, went home together, and learned new information about this special someone a bit later than you hoped to. Maybe she smokes and you don’t. Maybe he is a vegetarian, while meat is a big part of your life. With online dating, you can find all that kind of stuff out before the first date even begins.

3. Global Reach

This one is pretty cool. We are no longer confined to only finding potential matches who live in our home town. We can even pre-search for matches who live on the opposite side of the world. What a great way to build connections between cultures and countries!

4. A Cure for Loneliness

With the use of dating apps, we can now make plans with a stranger at a moment’s notice. This especially comes in handy if all your friends happen to be in relationships, no longer wanting to accompany you on your “hunt”. Nowadays, if you’re ever feeling a bit lonely, you can just hop on an app and see where the night takes you. Online dating makes us crazy independent from our non-single friends. What’s cooler than that?

5. Softer Rejection

Although being rejected online can be disheartening, it’s nothing like the feeling of being rejected to your face. Yes, you’ll probably think online dating sucks if someone doesn’t answer your message, but it’s also easy to convince yourself that they don’t know what they’re missing out on. However, if someone rejects you at a bar, it’s much harder to recover from.

6. Introvert Friendly

For many people, the idea of walking up to a stranger and saying hi is just too much to handle. Well, online dating acts as a tool for leveling the playing field. Now introverts and extroverts alike have equal access to singles around them.

7. Bigger Selection

The cool thing about online dating is that we put our destiny into our own hands. No more waiting, hoping, wishing, and dreaming. We have the power of the Internet on our side.

All that said, I have to add that there are of course still beautiful advantages to dating in the traditional sense (meaning without the help of the Internet). But I happen to be a big fan of online dating. Without it, I’m not sure I would have ever met my husband. And that in itself is enough reason for me to shatter the idea that online dating sucks. Online dating doesn’t suck. Online dating is a crazy powerful tool that you would be silly to not at least try.

So, my suggestion? Get clicking, because online dating isn’t going anywhere anytime soon.

Until next time!

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12 Comments on “7 Arguments to the Idea That Online Dating Sucks”

    1. Haha, “interesting” is a great way to describe it! Everyone comes out of it with some really great stories, that’s for sure.

  1. Love this article. Pre screening is a huge plus! I’ve avoided even going on what would have been failed dates because of this! Met my boyfriend on Tinder (gasp lol) two years ago – and we’re still going strong 🙂

    1. That’s awesome! I met my husband on Tinder as well. I’m guessing that more and more Tinder success stories are going to start popping up over the next year, hopefully destroying the idea that it’s “just for hookups”. I wish you and your boyfriend all the best!

  2. I had a terrible experience with online dating with someone who turned out to be the opposite of what he claimed to be and I promised myself never to do it again. I am glad it worked out for you but it does suck when it doesn’t. I agree on the introvert friendly part and global search advantage but I didn’t find it easy. Great post thought.

    1. I totally understand that it can be hard to get back out there after a bad experience. I would just advise taking your time and starting up again when you are really ready and open for it. But regardless of which way you choose to go about dating, I wish you all the luck and happiness in the journey!

  3. Awesome post! I’m so glad you are promoting online dating. I’m such a huge fan too! I met so many awesome people this way. But crazily enough not my husband who is close minded to the subject so I never talk about it. But seriously. It’s awesome! One of the benefits that you didn’t mention that I found was that it can teach you how to talk to people more effectively. I became a much better communicator when I spent my time chatting, asking questions, and getting to know others in a short amount of time. It also pushed me to be more outgoing which has highly benifitted my life. I highly recommend internet dating to all my friends too!! X

    1. Yes!! What a great point. You are so right that it forces people to be more socially connected. That’s a great one to add to the list!

  4. I honestly thought online dating was pretty bad (I’ve been trying it (kindof) for years now) but you’ve made me see it in a better light. I like being able to see possible suitors from the comfiness of my bed 🙂 thanks for opening my eyes!

    1. I’m so glad that it helped you find a little light at the end of the tunnel! I know it can be frustrating, but if you find the right person for you, anything is worth it. Right? 😉

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