Online Dating After Divorce – 8 Do’s and Don’ts for Your Success

Stacy KarynGeneral Dating Advice9 Comments

Ready to get back into the dating scene? Although online dating after divorce is often not quite as difficult as it sounds, there are a few tricky situations and emotions that can get the in the way of your success.  

Here are my do’s and don’ts for online dating after divorce:

DO:

Put yourself out there. It may be intimidating, especially after being in a long relationship. However, you may also be surprised as to how many people are in the same boat as you.

DON’T:

Use any kind of negative self-talk. Inner chatter of “I’m not good enough” and “Who would want me?” is way more self-destructive than you might think. Replace these with simple phrases like “I’m ready” and “Let’s do this!”. For more on self-esteem, check out this article.

DO:

Tell your date that you have gone through a divorce (somewhere between the 1st and 3rd date). This may even encourage your date to open up about something as well, building an immediate and strong connection between the two of you.

DON’T:

Create long lists of “must haves” in a partner. Yes, you probably want to avoid repeating mistakes from the past, but these types of lists can be a huge turn off. Keep things short and sweet! Spend less time talking about your requirements, and more time talking about your interests, goals, and hobbies.

DO:

Surround yourself with supportive friends and family. Dating is tough, especially the second time around. It’s important to have as much positivity on your side as possible.

DON’T:

Talk about your ex. This is uncomfortable for both parties. After sharing the information with your date, drop it and move on to something else.

DO:

Give OkCupid and Tinder a try. They are easy to use. They both have a huge user-base. And, you are not required to state your marital status on either one. The fact that you are divorced is very private information. You don’t necessarily have to share this with everyone on the internet. However, with sites like Match.com, you do have to include this in your profile settings.

And the most important ‘DO’ of all?

Remember that you are not alone! You are no less wonderful, special, attractive, or interesting because of your past. If anything, you are even more interesting. So use this to your advantage and start building up a relationship with that person you’ve been dreaming about! That said, this can definitely be a difficult time, so if you’re ever in need of some extra help, feel free to check out my dating strategy sessions for some personalized advice.

And how about you? Are you ready to get back into the dating scene after a divorce? Or for those of you who have never been married, would you be open to dating someone who has gone through a divorce? I’d love to hear your take on all of this in the comments below!

Until next time,

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9 Comments on “Online Dating After Divorce – 8 Do’s and Don’ts for Your Success”

  1. Liked your article! It is true, that we all have a past and come bruised into a new relationship. Communication and honesty are two of the most important elements.

    1. Totally! Even if you are dating someone who hasn’t gone through a divorce, it doesn’t mean that they aren’t also dealing with past pain and baggage. Great point!

    1. Dating after a big break up can definitely be intimidating! And you’re right that it’s super important to have supportive people by your side when you do.

    1. Definitely! It’s always great to open up if asked, but sometimes the person you’re dating just doesn’t want to know about that kind of thing.

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