How to Get Through a Disappointing Date

Stacy KarynGeneral Dating Advice, Self-Improvement3 Comments

Had a bad date?

Most of us have experienced (or will experience at some point) a disappointing date with someone who turns out to be mean, un-showered, boring, or just plain awkward. Unfortunately, underwhelming dates are an unavoidable part of the online dating process, and the major bummer is that one mediocre date could potentially turn you away from dating for a good while! Luckily, there are a handful of exciting ways you can help yourself get through any awkward dates you may encounter in the future!   

How to Get Through a Disappointing Date:
1. Check something off of your list.

It can be easy to get into the habit of always meeting your first dates at the same ol’ bar. You’re comfortable there, you know your way around, you have a good corner picked out of where you’re going to sit, and the staff knows you by name. But this type of thinking can actually promote staleness in the date without even intending to or realizing it!

So, instead of going back to your most frequented spot, suggest meeting up at a bar or food spot that you have always wanted to try! This way, you can work towards your goal of seeing more of your city while sifting through your potential future partners!

2. Work on your active listening skills.

Active listening is an insanely valuable skill to have when it comes to family, friends, work, and pretty much all types of relationships. And although it may seem like a daunting thing to learn, first dates are the perfect place to practice this! Plus, if you actually learn to listen, your dates might not turn out to be so disappointing after all. You may end up getting to know someone who never would have opened up to you otherwise.

3. Multitask.

Instead of meeting up at a bar, meet up at a location in which you can expand your skills at something, like a bowling alley. This way, even if you have absolutely nothing in common with your date, you can also strive for your best game of bowling!

Try out an open dance class or a cooking class. Go wine tasting. Meet up for a trivia night. Play pool. The options are endless! Keep moving yourself forward. You can get creative with this… what do you want to get better at?

4. Learn something from them.

There’s a great quote from Bill Nye that states, “Everyone you will ever meet knows something you don’t.” So if you and your date aren’t clicking, try to make it your goal to find that “something” by the end of the night … and then learn as much as you can about it.

5. Examine Yourself.

This one is the harshest item on the list, and I apologize if it brings out any frustrations. But before you get all mad about how lame your date was, take a good look at how you behaved on the date as well. What do you think they are now thinking about you? How can you change this for next time?

For example, if you realized that your self-confidence was a bit low, it may be time to pick up a new hobby to re-stimulate your passion and confidence. If you felt a bit bored by your date, maybe you are actually feeling bored with yourself. Did you forget to shower after your afternoon workout? Maybe you’re the one making your date uncomfortable. This is a great time to do some journaling and self-reflection.

So, get ready to follow the tips above! You will then have the opportunity to never waste your time on a disappointing date again! Besides, you may even turn a what would have once been disappointing date into an awesome date. For some inspiration on some unique “outside of the box” first dates, make sure to check out my 34 ideas!

Have fun, keep growing, and happy dating!

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3 Comments on “How to Get Through a Disappointing Date”

  1. This is a cool list! I’ve tried some things myself, and they work!
    Good thing about calling what to do on a date (she already thinks you’re decisive), is to get better at your hobby is, by circling your date around it.
    Also, when I figure out in my mind (that it won’t work out), I go through the rest of date as if I’m learning new things from a friend. xD Sometimes you may like what you hear, and actually turn interested.

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