Although this is not an easy topic, it’s one of extreme importance. Depression isn’t something that people are typically comfortable discussing at the dinner table. In reality, it’s often judged, pitied, and ignored altogether. But in reality, a large percentage of us suffer from depression, and the balance between managing mental health and taking on the dating world can be a doozy. But here are a few things to remember when dating with depression.
7 things to keep in mind when dating with depression:
1. You are good enough
Although you may have gotten used to negative self-talk by now, it doesn’t mean that any of those thoughts are true. A perfect catch can come along any day now, and they might just be nice to you. The bad news? You may have gotten so used to this negative self-talk, that any positive talk now feels uncomfortable. It’s important to constantly remind yourself that you are good enough, otherwise you may end up destroying what could be a perfectly good relationship. For tips on how to overcome low self-esteem, make sure to give this a read.
2. Don’t ignore nutrition
On top of everything else, the last thing you need to worry about is your health, so treat your body with love and care. The more fruits, veggies, and nutrients you can pack into your body, the better. Stop feeling guilty about the simple act of eating. You should rather treat your body with nutrition, eat to your heart’s content, and feel good about it!
3. Vitamin D
With this rapid transition into a digital world, it’s sometimes easy to let full days go by without even feeling the sun on your face. You may go from your home, to your garage, to work, to your home, all the while never allowing yourself to soak up any vitamin D. But this can easily be remedied by taking one short walk a day.
4. Divvy up your focus
Although dating can potentially suck you in, causing a mass addiction in the process, it’s important to fight this. Make sure to divide your focus equally between different areas of your life. Clear time for family. Make new friends. Pursue your hobbies, and focus at work. If all of your eggs are not in your dating basket, you’ll find the process of dating with depression to be much more bearable.
5. Take your time
Just because you are at a certain age or point in life, and regardless of what others say, you don’t have to be dating. Take some time off when you’re feeling overwhelmed, and only focus on dating when you are feeling excited and ready for the process. There are going to be days in which you are totally down and frustrated towards it all. However, you don’t have to force this. It can be beneficial to take a break from dating every now and then.
6. Consider others
Mental health issues are more common than we may think. As you date, keep in mind that the person on the other side of the table may also be dating with depression too. Practice kindness and gentleness in all interactions.
7. Don’t forget to give
Multiple studies have linked the act of giving with happiness, so give freely! Whether this is through monetary donations, volunteer work, or the simple act of checking up on a family member, try to incorporate this habit into your daily life. You might find that once the pressure has been taken off of yourself, it becomes much easier to be happy.
Although this is by no means an exhaustive list, these are definitely really big pieces to the puzzle of keeping your sanity when dating with depression. But if you have any other questions on the topic, feel free to make use of my dating strategy sessions for some personalized advice! Or have you already come up with your own tactics or techniques to keep a level head during the dating process? Feel free to share in the comments below. You just might help someone who needs it. And that can be your #7 for the day. 😉
Until next time,